While boyfriends may come and go, it should always be easy to fall in love with yourself.  Youre not going to break up with yourself and the only cheating you may do is eating chocolate while on a diet. This may be the month that is overrun with red roses, chocolates and little candies with messages like be mine and hug me, but its also the month that has become famous for the American Heart Associations message about fighting the no. 1 killer of women. And this year, the campaign has been pumped up to further the phrase known as Go Red for Women. There are plenty of ways to spread the word or take part in your own health, just log onto goredforwomen.org to check out delicious recipes like berry meringue pie or bacon and veggie pizza, take a health quiz or shop for a cause.

Im tagging all my luggage with these red leather tags, $12 at goredforwomen.org

Q. I have a challenge that needs sorting for summer. I am a 40 year old British woman living in a hot country.  I cannot go bare legged in summer and have been desperately seeking some sheer very natural looking seamless toe hosiery that dont slip on mules when I walk in summer and that dont look unnatural when everyone else is walking around bare legged. Do you know where I can get something like this?
-Toe Free

A. More women are looking for opportunities to wear hosiery with their mules, peep toes and some sandals while still giving support and coverage to their legs. Thankfully, some designers are listening and creating toeless hosiery and tights. While Im not a fan of hosiery in summer or with mules, Im not about to tell you gals to forfeit them from your closet or go bare if you're not comfortable doing so. So here are some options that offer sheer and flesh toned colors. Just match them as closely to your leg color as possible.

1. Hue Toeless with Lace Control-Top Pantyhose, $6 at alexblake.com
2. Falke Shelina 12D Toeless Tights, $17 at mytights.com
3. Berkshire: Ultra Sheer Hose without Toes, $6.95 at barenecessities.com

Q. I am hoping you can give me some guidance here. I wear shoes of varying heel heights from flats to 4.5 inches. Is there a length of pant or jean hem that will work for any height heel? I'd like the option of wearing all of my jeans and pants with any of my shoes.
-Flats to Stilettos

A. Ahhh the conundrum of jeans.  Unfortunately, theres no perfect length that will give us the option of wearing both heels and flats. My skinny jeans work with flats, my AGs are long enough for heels, my Citizens of Humanity can be worn with some heels, but still scrape the ground if I wear sandals. And then theres the Anlo trousers, the lighter wash Club Monacos, my off white Paige Premiums that are too long for flip flops, etc.

The majority of us take so much time finding the right pair of jeans, owning several pairs designated for specific jobs and hemmed accordingly. Trouser styles look best with stylish shoes that have a slight to higher heel, so skip the flip-flops. If you love two pairs of dark denim, plan one pair for heels and high heeled sandals for evening and one pair that works with ballet flats or casual flat sandals. Light colored jeans are usually casual so youll wear those with cute kicks and flats or flip-flops.  I know it can be frustrating, but realize the bonus that jeans have evolved to cross into all fashion forays from work to play to evening.

Q. My husband is currently deployed to Iraq and he will be coming home in February. I am looking for a cute new outfit to wear for when I meet him again after 7 months. If you have any ideas or advice I would appreciate your help. I am 23 going on 24 and I want something that would fit my age and that my husband would love.
-Love Reunion

A. Lets just say it: youre a sure thing when he gets home. You certainly need a great dress, heels and something sexy for underneath it all since by the time you get home, I suspect those clothes wont stay on for very long. Or set something seductive aside to change into when you get home for a special welcome home memory. This dress can be non-winter material since we are marking a momentous reunion, just wear a long coat to keep you warm. You need the VA VA factor without looking trashy.

1. Scarlet V-neck Charmeuse Dresses by Betsey Johnson, $310 at edressme.com
2.  JS Collections Printed Charmeuse Dress, $206 at nordstrom.com
3. Juicy Couture Scoop Neck Jersey Dress, $198 at nordstrom.com
4. Lydia cotton cady dress, $250 at jcrew.com

And for underneath:

5.  Chantelle Intimates 'Fete Starlette' Set, $115 at nordstrom.com
6.  Betsey Johnson Stretch Mesh Camisole, $88 at nordstrom.com

Q. My fiance used to work in a tux rental store and believes that silver vests and ties look the best against black tuxes for his groomsmen.  I would like the bridesmaids to wear black dresses with bright pink flowers.  I also want the best man to wear a different color tie, preferably royal blue, and the maid of honor to wear a bright pink dress.  My bouquet would have a mixture of white, blue, and pink flowers.  Is it okay to have that many colors in the wedding?
- Tux Distress

A. Its up to you how much cohesion you want with the color choices at your wedding. There are no longer hard and fast rules for a wedding. It just helps the unavoidable gossip mill when your wedding looks elegant and sophisticated.   Keep the silver vests for the groomsman to a low shine factor and err on the side of a shade closer to platinum.

Have you discussed with the maid of honor her thoughts on a bright pink dress? With the addition of carrying pink flowers, will she feel like a big piece of candy?  I love pink, but I guarantee you I never wore the dress from my brother's first wedding again. We all like to think weve been smart enough to choose a dress that our bridesmaids will be able to wear again, but they may think differently once theyve seen your choice.  Will one bright pink dress and one royal blue tie be the ideal way to pull in all your colors?  What about having your maid of honor wear a more fabulous black dress compared to the other bridesmaids? Make hers long while the others wear cocktail length or have them or her wear a bright pink ribbon with the dress. Id suggest a pale pink metallic strappy heel or silver heel with the black dresses to add a pop of color.